I just did the regression meditation and from the time I went "downstairs" the tears flowed from the corners of my eyes. I was really able to visualize my childhood home with the emotions connected, at school and generally in the neighborhood with friends and what struck me the most was feeling lonely, of not being as good as the other children in my eyes. My mom also used to 'compare' me to the other girls who got better grades or got their girl scout badges faster. It seemed I was always competing with someone to be as good as them. I know my mom meant it to help me, but it didn't. All it did was make me feel insecure and inferior. I also visualized the other children doing things with their families...I was an only child and we didn't do things together. I remembered in my visualization of my first dance recital. I got to go to do the first performance because someone gave my mom and me a ride, but the second nite, I was dressed in my costume, makeup on and I didn't have a ride, my dad would not take my mom and I and I remember crying and crying. This came back so vividly. I was required to go to church every Sunday, didn't matter what church. No one went with me, but I was required to find a church to go to. Alot of painful memories surfaced.
And all is done without the generic advice of bringing up the talk, sourpuss attitude (in the name of “boundaries”) and ultimatums. She consistently lures him with honey and he is trapped in that ever-flowing of honey and can’t/won’t get out. And only a very special and emotionally intelligent woman can do that. Thanksgiving this […]
Why do men often give conflicting messages? He says he doesn’t want a relationship, yet he acts like a boyfriend. He says he’s not ready, yet he won’t leave you alone. Should you trust his words or his actions? You are so confused yet he makes you happy with his consistent leaning-forward. When a guy […]
Are you communicating or nagging? Often women think it’s an issue of a communication breakdown, when in fact they’re blaming and trying so hard to change their men. Men and women perceive communication differently. To her she’s communicating, to him she’s nagging. It all boils down to this: when a woman tries to fix […]
I’m a believer it actually takes one person to save a relationship. Since most who come to me are women and I’m pretty conversant with their issues, I teach them the solution to the problems. It’s direct, it’s simple and it’s fast. Change yourself. And stop doing the stuff that has proven not to work. […]
Women often make sex a bargaining chip or if not they feel shamed by it. Basically those women are anxious attachers to begin with. And the dating niche caters so much to that anxiety by making it as if it was the sex that is the problem, instead of the person(s) who has/have the sex. […]
"Katarina, as a "red blooded" kind of guy, I would credit you with more insight into us guys than ANY woman I have ever encountered in my entire life. You are spot on. I would go so far as to say that you have a gift in terms of your capacity to understand us guys. We live in a world where - it seems to me - so many women don't want to understand men, they just want us men to think like women. Presumably this would be convenient because it would make us guys easier to understand, deal with, and control. So we spend a lot of time getting our asses shot to pieces for no other crime than being men and thinking like men. I have to congratulate you for your unparalleled and phenomenal ability to realise that we males are what we are. We are not evil for our failure to function like women. We retire to our man caves occasionally. It's the way it is."-Christopher Akenfelds, Australia